who knows man. as i've come to discover, chicks in Charlotte are the worst. probably best in the end.

5/13/2014 2:05:01 PM

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"his is why i lie to people i don't know well all the time. its better to tell them what they wanna hear. telling the truth usually is a lose-lose situation."

technically i didn't tell her the FULL truth.....

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"probably best in the end."

Probably right, besides being foreign and cute there really wasn't much else to her. She was one of those lives to work kind of people who spends up to 60 hrs a week at one of the banks uptown and goes on month long business trips. Plus her favorite bar is bubble

5/13/2014 2:17:37 PM

lol, yes chicks in charlotte are the worst.

im glad i moved away.

[Edited on May 13, 2014 at 2:20 PM. Reason : haha, bubble]

5/13/2014 2:19:57 PM

Charlotte is definitely a "females market", I just haven't quite put my finger on why.

My french Canadian friend blames it on fat chicks lol.

5/13/2014 2:26:16 PM

so you go off to another city to bang another chick and then get all butthurt when the girl you're talking to back home blows you off b/c it is pretty obvious why someone would go to another city alone for a week

you sound like a raging douchebag and a waste of time

5/13/2014 2:38:51 PM

Hey miss,

I really did want to visit the Pac NW, see the seahawks stadium, go to a MLS Timbers game, drinks lots of good beer, and get a feel for the city i've been thinking of moving too (Reference:message_topic.aspx?topic=625988). The side action was just a bonus.
This trip was booked before I even went out with this chick.

Besides for all i know this girl was "banging" other guys as well.

&

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"People back-pack Europe alone all the fucking time."

dropdeadkate is just a hater

[Edited on May 13, 2014 at 3:01 PM. Reason : a]

5/13/2014 2:59:27 PM

you weren't back packing

you were going to one city

to bang another chick

5/13/2014 3:04:01 PM

I did visit Seattle and Seaside Beach as well.....

[Edited on May 13, 2014 at 3:06 PM. Reason : a]

5/13/2014 3:06:25 PM

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"you weren't back packing"

more like barebacking....

5/13/2014 3:08:32 PM

They'd met on the internet and been on two dates. Doesn't sound all that serious yet. And if someone in that situation wants to make the assumption that you're hooking up with someone else (whether you are or aren't) and decides to start ignoring you, then that just screams insecure and maybe a little psycho. It's be a little different if they'd been dating for a couple months or had started talking about relationships and dating exclusively, etc. Then he would be a douche for doing that.

[Edited on May 13, 2014 at 3:13 PM. Reason : ]

5/13/2014 3:13:05 PM

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"Charlotte is definitely a "females market", I just haven't quite put my finger on why."

it's a young money city with a different set of relationship values and a different idea of what the dating experience is supposed entail. oh and you better have a bank job.

5/13/2014 3:17:09 PM

one of them shaved their arms, the other did not

5/13/2014 3:17:12 PM

the girl in here (ddk) wants to believe that she stopped talking to you for honorable reasons, but she probably just thought you were a loser for not having enough friends to take the trip w/ you.

i'm not judging you, i do shit by myself all the time... just don't tell girls about it.

5/13/2014 3:39:53 PM

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"just don't tell girls about it."

lesson learned!

5/13/2014 3:54:22 PM

ive done this exact same shit before but she didnt give me the silent treatment.

seriously after just a couple dates i went on a trip alone and she was pissed i didnt take her with me.

uh sorry w/e cray.

5/13/2014 4:13:19 PM

Shoulda bought her a keychain in the gift shop.

Tokens are the best!

5/13/2014 4:36:46 PM

Dating has no redeeming qualities....

5/13/2014 10:24:59 PM

HUR is a fucking idiot.

5/14/2014 12:57:01 AM

The best thing about OKC Dates is pointing out the people you can tell are on OKC dates.

and I'm on that shit so it's no offense...those first meetings just have an awkward feeling air about them...easy to see

But if you make it through that first date...odds are you're in there

5/14/2014 7:29:24 AM

i miss the days where the girl you liked would just come over to your house to "watch a movie" and then end up giving you a hand job before your mom had to take her back home. much simpler times.

5/14/2014 8:19:08 AM

I hear you. In some ways I miss the times when making out and some under shirt action for 3 - 4 hours was a win and the best night ever if you got some dry humping in there.

I was on okcupid a looooong time ago (circa 2005) and it appears to have changed a lot. I know a group of girls who are on that and match they spend an inordinate amount of time debating among themselves which site is better and where they should focus their energies.

Also, from what I can tell from them most online dating site interactions go like this.


Guy writes girl ---> girl doesn't respond ---> girl gets upset he doesn't write again

Girl writes guy ---> guy responds ---> girl doesn't respond ---> girl gets upset if he doesn't write again

Girl writes guy ---> guy responds ---> girl responds ---> they meet up ---> girl has fun but doesn't go on a second date because the guy was only 5'10", even though she is only 5'4"----> girl wonders why she is 32 and alone.

[Edited on May 14, 2014 at 12:06 PM. Reason : .]

5/14/2014 12:05:29 PM

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"Girl writes guy ---> guy responds ---> girl responds ---> they meet up ---> girl has fun but doesn't go on a second date because the guy was only 5'10", even though she is only 5'4"----> girl wonders why she is 32 and alone. "

Sounds like your typical Charlotte girl. I commented on it a few pages back but I noticed an interesting correlation where shorter girls tended to have a much stronger preference (aka Ideal Match) for tall guys in contrast to average height girls who seem content as long as the guy was their height or their height plus 2 inches.

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"The best thing about OKC Dates is pointing out the people you can tell are on OKC dates."

It is obvious sometimes lol

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"Guy writes girl ---> girl doesn't respond ---> girl gets upset he doesn't write again Girl writes guy ---> guy responds ---> girl doesn't respond ---> girl gets upset if he doesn't write again"

Do guys typically write girls multiple messages. I figure if she ignores you once than time to move on.

[Edited on May 14, 2014 at 12:45 PM. Reason : a]

5/14/2014 12:43:34 PM

when i've inquired, they've always said that they really wanted to know if the guy was interested in them.

5/14/2014 1:31:08 PM

if i ever wrote a second message it was only a booty call invitation because i assumed they weren't looking for something serious, and it often worked

5/14/2014 1:41:33 PM

fuck a second message.

it's a dating site and to hell with playing games before meeting

5/14/2014 1:53:23 PM

I had a friend who dated a girl a few years ago who told him upfront that she didn't play games.

It turned out that she was being completely literal. She wouldn't play card games or sports or video games or putt-putt or anything!

5/14/2014 2:06:35 PM

what's odd is these girls seem like entirely normal, cool, rational people. but when i hear them discuss that sort of stuff i get all

the 5'10" thing really gets me (maybe because that's my height) but if you're a woman looking for someone taller than 5'10" then you've limited yourself to 50% of men. if you want them to have a college degree (25% of men) you're then at 12.5% of the dating pool at max.

that isn't even accounting for having a race preference, fitness level, etc... after all of that they're basically limiting themselves to 2-5% of men. then once in that subset she has to find him attractive and like his personality and then the guy has to reciprocate on both accounts. i tried to explain this to them but it fell on deaf ears. now i just LOLOLOLOLOL when they wonder why they're in their 30s and can't find a man.

5/14/2014 2:08:32 PM

Yeah, it's weird. I'd see girls 5'0 wanting a 6 foot tall guys but but then someone 5'8 would be fine with a 5'10 guy.

I'd never send two messages back to back unless she had already responded once.
I wasn't about to send dual initial messages to every girl I was interested in.

[Edited on May 14, 2014 at 2:20 PM. Reason : ]

5/14/2014 2:20:17 PM

I'm 5'10". I have a college degree. I go to the gym at least 5 times a week.

I don't see why it is too much to ask that the person I am dating also have all those qualities.

*shrug*

why do I keep posting in this thread I quit okc months ago

5/14/2014 2:33:44 PM

I'm 5'8" and my boyfriend is 5'11" and I wouldn't want it any other way. I actually find dating tall guys really annoying.

5/14/2014 2:34:07 PM

I have a good 29 yr old female friend probably about 5'5" (i'd give her a 7 of 10) who always complains about being single and complains that most of her other friends are all couples. Talking about what kind of guys she likes besides various other requirements (i.e. good job, someone who works out and in good shape, values family, etc) they MUST be 6'.
On that note her last two boyfriends, don't know their exact height was but they were
around if not more than 6', one was an overweight and the other was a good looking lad but worked as a dish washer at a restuarant.

She is willing to forego her other requirements dating one guy who was fat and another who was a loser with a shitty job but by god they better meet the height requirement lol!

5/14/2014 2:37:02 PM

A friend of mine was looking at guys 6'2" 6'3" minimum last we spoke. glwt

5/14/2014 2:46:48 PM

I'm one of those short girls with a preference for taller guys. It's not that I wouldn't date someone who is shorter than 6', but if a website asks for my preference I am going to be honest. I can't say why ALL short girls seem to prefer tall men, because the only explanation I really have is that it's my preference, the same way a guy might prefer big asses or whatever.

5/14/2014 2:55:19 PM

[Edited on May 14, 2014 at 2:59 PM. Reason : see also: http://i.imgur.com/F792ChA.jpg]

5/14/2014 2:58:42 PM

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"I can't say why ALL short girls seem to prefer tall men, because the only explanation I really have is that it's my preference, the same way a guy might prefer big asses or whatever."

the typical reason i have heard is that they no matter how tall they are (i'm dated the gambit, 6'3" is the tallest) they still feel feminine by having the guy being taller than them.

as for the ladies that are much shorter - its more about the protection of being with someone taller. there is probably the "he's much taller than me, he could have his way with me and i would be helpless to him" mindset as well.

5/14/2014 3:02:48 PM

^^I feel like the jorts that Shaq is wearing are just a regular pair of jeans that a normal sized person would wear.

5/14/2014 3:16:16 PM

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"I'm 5'10". I have a college degree. I go to the gym at least 5 times a week. I don't see why it is too much to ask that the person I am dating also have all those qualities."

ddk, assuming you actually read what was typed you should understand that we're speaking of girls who are fairly short and are seeking out men that are much taller. If you want to go after someone who fits all of the above, then that is okay. But if someone is 5'2" or 5'4" then they are unnecessarily limiting their pool by unnecessarily stringent height restrictions.

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"website asks for my preference I am going to be honest."

preference is one thing but not considering the alternative is another. i'd prefer a woman who has big breasts, a tiny waist, is an avid triathlete and equally enjoys both spherical calculus and staring contests...but i'm not dumb enough to limit myself to my preference alone.

5/14/2014 3:31:21 PM

Right. And I'm sure there are women out there who won't talk to men outside their preference range. That's pretty shitty. But just because someone lists a preference doesn't mean they refuse to consider outliers.

That being said, I'm sure on dating sites it's fairly hard to get a response from someone who prefers tall men when you aren't, because it's relatively hard to get a response in general and that's a strike against you off the bat. Which is what you all are talking about. So I will leave now.

5/14/2014 3:35:08 PM

well i read about the short women thing, but there was also the "must have a degree" and "must be fit" filter thrown in there as well

meh whatever

5/14/2014 3:49:06 PM

You guys should watch the most recent episode of Louie.

5/14/2014 4:30:53 PM

I think some of the really short women who prefer tall men like to think of themselves as spinners.

5/14/2014 4:43:31 PM

why does a college degree matter? plenty of turds graduate college

5/14/2014 4:57:24 PM

Y'all have some seriously lame lady friends.

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"She is willing to forego her other requirements dating one guy who was fat and another who was a loser with a shitty job but by god they better meet the height requirement lol!"

I'm not sure this is true. But, if it is, you should feel sorry for her.

And that's it.

5/14/2014 5:35:17 PM

A lot of girls would rather date a dishwasher than a short dude

5/14/2014 5:59:18 PM

I got the same comment from every OKC date I went on - "you're taller than I expected". I had my height listed on my account along with pictures of me; what were you expecting?

5/14/2014 7:11:53 PM

It seems possible that at least some of these ladies are bad judges of height, and they don't realize the average dude is 5'10".

5/14/2014 8:19:43 PM

I don't much care how tall you are as long as you are actually taller than me. Everyone is the same height in bed...

I've noticed that online dating is either feast or famine. You either have multiple guys trying to get your attention OR *crickets*.

So incredibly frustrating.

5/14/2014 8:33:02 PM

a girl..imma give you a feast if you want it

5/14/2014 10:14:26 PM

met my current girlfriend there...been going great for 2 months now

5/14/2014 10:14:55 PM

I went to pick up a girl at her apartment for a blind date our mutual friend set up. I saw her peeking through her blinds after I parked. This p.o.s. didn't even answer the door. I left after a few door bell rings. Our mutual friend called her that night and was told I was too short for her. Fuck that. ( I'm 5'0 fwiw)

5/14/2014 10:44:17 PM