LOL

Even if a dude seems a good height, I still put him up against the door jamb and whip out my yardstick just to double check. Bare feet only.

5/14/2014 11:29:27 PM

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"I went to pick up a girl at her apartment for a blind date our mutual friend set up. I saw her peeking through her blinds after I parked. This p.o.s. didn't even answer the door. I left after a few door bell rings. Our mutual friend called her that night and was told I was too short for her. Fuck that. ( I'm 5'0 fwiw)"

You're 5 feet tall, or did you mean to type 5'10"? Either way, fuck that cunt. I've been set up on blind dates that I knew weren't going to work out from the beginning for one reason or another but I still went through with it. It's called having social skills and just being a mature and decent person. What the fuck? Or am I the only one that just genuinely enjoys meeting new people regardless of attraction?

[Edited on May 14, 2014 at 11:53 PM. Reason : ]

5/14/2014 11:51:54 PM

^yeah, she should have at least opened the door and said she got back together with her ex boyfriend or some crap

5/15/2014 6:58:49 AM

that's some next level shitty person stuff there

5/15/2014 7:38:04 AM

was the 5'0" a typo lol?

5/15/2014 8:44:09 AM

lolololol hey now is a midget

5/15/2014 9:13:41 AM

it doesn't matter if he is 5'0" or that i'm 5'10", we're both the same in the eyes of 5'4" females.

5/15/2014 9:26:29 AM

you're both little people. it's ok. i'm glad you can admit it.

5/15/2014 9:37:21 AM

I am 6'3 and that didnt really help me much with dating. What they really mean is they want someone tall but also smoking hot, which I am not haha

5/15/2014 9:37:30 AM

i don't think its even smoking hot.

sure, you have to catch their eye, but you don't have to be a model or anything.
carry yourself with some confidence, and know that you're not going to be attractive in the eyes of every member of the opposite sex.

5/15/2014 9:47:05 AM

I assumed hey now was joking.

And people may have preferences, but they ignore their presumed preferences all the time when they actually dig somebody. Don't let height stuff get in the way of being awesome!

5/15/2014 10:28:12 AM

But even if he's too short for her she should still answer the door and go on the date. For all she knows he's also not attracted to her but maybe they hit it off and become friends or something. Or even if it doesn't go anywhere, you should still be polite and go on the date.

5/15/2014 10:31:16 AM

I'm 5'10" too short to pull the ladies...

5/15/2014 10:37:13 AM

Very true, even if you arent into the dude because he is short it doesnt mean you cant still have a fun night out with a new person. I went on lots of dates where I had a good time even if she never talked to me again

5/15/2014 10:44:11 AM

^^^The whole thing was a joke. None of it happened.

But, yeah, if I was the mutual friend, I'd be very disappointed in her, and I'd apologize to hey now for even setting him up with such a loser in the first place.

It seems likely there was something else going on as well. He's-too-short is a shitty excuse to avoid or disguise some other problem.

5/15/2014 11:17:58 AM

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"Or even if it doesn't go anywhere, you should still be polite and go on the date."

Yeah, showed up to a few dates where I wasn't physically attracted to the woman but still made the most of the evening.

5/15/2014 11:31:18 AM

^

5/15/2014 11:34:07 AM

I don't remember it being such a freak show the last time i was on OKC...

some of my chats have been like watching a train wreck in slow motion....i just cant turn my head away from it.

5/15/2014 8:49:36 PM

I'm trying to think of a m2f analogue for the "short women like tall men" thing...it seems like there ought to be one. But men, as far as I know, scarcely give a shit how tall a woman is. I certainly don't.

Maybe men with small penises prefer women with large breasts? (This pretty much holds in my case: my penis isn't huge - it corresponds to a height of 5'9" or so, say - and I adore large breasts.) I don't see why there should be any such correspondence, but it's all I got.

5/15/2014 10:43:10 PM

I really like the girls that explicitly say "guys only message me if >5'10" in their profile (unless they are >5'7"). If only it were acceptable for guys to say "sorry girls C cup or bigger for dates"....

Honestly at 5'8" I'm taller than most girls. I was never self-conscious about my height until I did online dating and saw how many girls expect their guy to be 6' tall.



[Edited on May 15, 2014 at 10:51 PM. Reason : l]

5/15/2014 10:49:04 PM

there's probably some natural selection at work...perhaps a significant portion of these girls are on okcupid because they have trouble finding satisfactory relationships, because they're pickier than they have any right to be

5/15/2014 10:53:42 PM

I wish I could be near HUR right now. I'd give him a big ole hug to console him and then scoop him right off his feet.

5/15/2014 11:41:07 PM

If I was some 5'1" girl I'd say "Don't message me unless you're 6'10" or taller" just for lol's

5/15/2014 11:46:10 PM

height doesn't really matter. I've dated shorted than me. I don't really care. I'm almost always taller in heels anyway.

dick size though. that shit matters. seriously.

5/15/2014 11:46:32 PM

I'm 5'10" exactly, would that make the cut...?

Mathematically, it's not >5'10" but somehow i'm not sure those girls know that rule...

5/15/2014 11:51:52 PM

I'm guessing there's some "height doesn't count if you're fat" rule, similar to the common het-guy rule "big boobs don't count if you're fat" (not personal experience here, I'm 5'10").

5/15/2014 11:57:57 PM

So is hey now 5 feet even or not?

Height should only matter if you let it matter. I've dated taller girls (or similar height girls that wear heels all the time) that said they'd never date a shorter guy. If the guy is insecure about it, then the girl will feel weird about it. And if the guy owns it and the girl is still weird about it...then she's just a dumb cunt.

5/16/2014 7:18:16 AM

^
can't help what you're attracted to. you could say the same about any physical trait

5/16/2014 8:12:09 AM

Yes, but normal people find they can be attracted to more than just one physical characteristic so they don't put exclusionary clauses on their dating profiles...unless they're really stupid or really superficial.

I do wanna start a profile just to fuck with people now. I'm gonna prominently display my physical ideal: "20 year-old manual laborer--will settle for prison fit"

5/16/2014 9:21:50 AM

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"I don't remember it being such a freak show the last time i was on OKC... some of my chats have been like watching a train wreck in slow motion....i just cant turn my head away from it. "

that...

5/18/2014 6:30:53 AM

anyone ever met, by accident or purposefully, a girl out of your town on one of these? did anything ever come of it? I've been talking to a girl from Greenville for a couple weeks and there is mutual interest but setting something up has been tough.

5/19/2014 11:23:45 AM

You should turn it into an Internet crush where you develop really strong feelings for her but never meet.

It's the healthy thing to do.

5/19/2014 11:24:58 AM

already have too many of those

5/19/2014 11:38:59 AM

Never bothered searching outside Raleigh/Durham/CH

5/19/2014 1:44:45 PM

I have Jeepin -- I don't live in Raleigh but when I was single and on OKC, two of the girls I saw lived about 1.5 hours away. The first girl I talked with a lot online, then on the phone with before we finally met up in person just for dinner about half way between us. We were both pretty in to each other on the phone so we didn't really care about going anywhere super fancy or whatever but there was a lot of mutual attraction when we met so we continued to see each other for about a month, usually with me going to her place or her coming to mine on the weekends. I thought it was going great until out of the blue she told me that she was still in love with her ex bf (who apparently she was still in a relationship with when she started seeing me). We remained friends though and say hi on FB every now and then. We hooked up quite a bit too during that month so not a total waste of time .

Girl number 2 was about two months after things ended with the other one. She was a med student with really weird hours. We only actually met in person once but we talked on the phone a lot prior to meeting. She seemed fairly normal then but after we met and things went well she called like 15 times in a row when I was playing volleyball or some shit and didn't have my phone on me. She got real pissed off so I ended things with that. Shortly after she deleted her FB (or blocked me) and haven't heard from her since.

Regardless, in both cases I don't think the distance was a significant problem. At the very least if things go sour you don't have to worry about bumping into someone when you are out with a different girl.

5/19/2014 2:04:42 PM

guess i have no chance with ddk

5/19/2014 2:17:33 PM

^^^this wasn't purposeful. it was actually on tinder where I guess i had logged on at some point during my drive to atlanta. i didn't see her profile until i was back in Charlotte and we matched up. we've been talking a lot ever since.

5/19/2014 3:01:09 PM

^Well you keep bitchin' about Charlotte girls, so maybe you should start looking elsewhere.

5/19/2014 3:35:53 PM

hahaha exactly!!

5/19/2014 3:42:54 PM

question...so i updated my match profile and added a few new pics. I'm not a subscriber so i can't see any emails or anything like that. but i can see who has "winked" at me. I feel like i've gotten more winks and unreadable emails in the past 5 days since updating than I did during any given time I was a subscriber. I wonder if that's something that match.com does automatically in order to entice non-subscribers to pay than it is actual real people trying to make contact? if so that's some shady dealings.

6/11/2014 2:48:36 PM

^i seem to remember not being able to find any emails that i got supposedly got when i had a free account after i paid.

6/11/2014 5:59:55 PM

http://www.bizjournals.com/triangle/blog/2014/04/heartbreaking-raleigh-named-worst-city-in-america.html?r=full


I'm pretty done with OKC at this point, but Match's website/system just sucks so much in comparison. It's completely obvious they don't want to make it too easy to find someone. That would ruin their cash flow.

6/12/2014 8:14:19 PM

^ should start hanging out where sawahash

6/12/2014 8:32:23 PM

Instead of looking on OKCupid, you guys should just look on TWW.

That's how I found BigMan157.

6/12/2014 9:52:33 PM

^^^many logic fails in that there link

[Edited on June 12, 2014 at 9:56 PM. Reason : d]

6/12/2014 9:55:46 PM

"i love to laugh, smile, and have fun!"

noooooooo waaaayyyyy me too!!

6/13/2014 3:38:34 PM

3 day free trial on match. time to spam all the inboxes i can

6/24/2014 3:15:12 PM

why would someone who is willing to pay for an account want to date someone who isn't?

if they wanted a dude from a free site, they'd join a free site

at least that's my logic.

6/24/2014 3:41:13 PM

eh, i've subscribed multiple times. and most all of the girls i've dated have been eager to take it to text and/or date within a couple days. i'm just going to try it with more than normal. plus it's funny, i've learned to stop caring if they respond or not.

6/24/2014 3:44:04 PM

You date a lot. It's impressive.

6/24/2014 3:46:51 PM