i think the email was fine EXCEPT for the bridezilla/bitch comment. i was feeling the tone of the email until that comment, then it was over.

anyway, im kind of glad my parents can't afford to pay for my wedding... that means i can do whatever i want. because it is true, whoever is contributing $$ does have some say!

4/13/2009 8:39:14 PM

that was in reference to a conversation we had a few weeks ago when she just discovered that they actually make bitch cards and she thought it was hilarious.

4/13/2009 8:42:26 PM

I've been on the same wedge hunt for literally WEEKS going on months.
Everything is either too casual or WAAAAY too high.

Have you posted your dress? I don't have time to look through right now...
However, today in Dillards @ Cary Towne I saw some interesting lower cork wedge options.
They don't match my dresses, but they might work for you!!
They are located in the women's accessories section instead of with the shoes--
I believe there were 4 options-- I only remember 3:
black simple yet stylish flip flop, black w/ silver rhinestone type accents, gold w/ yellow rhinestone type accents (all had a cork wedge)
Brand Name: Soho Soles
The website on the shoes was slippers.com, but according to sohoshoe.com it is not yet available.
Also couldn't find anything on the Dillards website.
The most similar pictures I could find are here:
http://alturl.com/qif8

Otherwise, good luck!

[Edited on April 13, 2009 at 9:06 PM. Reason : url was too long]

4/13/2009 9:05:03 PM

my dress is the sophia long dress from jcrew. they dont let you hotlink. the shoes have to be beige/tan/offwhite/something like that. i'll check around though

4/13/2009 9:28:25 PM

^I LOVE the Sophia dresses from JCrew. That's an absolutely wonderful choice. I'm wearing the sophia short in berry pink for my rehearsal dinner.

4/13/2009 10:32:15 PM

Anyone know anyone who has used Anderson Point Cottage for any receptions? We are going to check it out this Friday.

4/14/2009 12:49:40 PM

our guys are going to wear converse type shoes. off-white w/ their tan suits. i saw several pictures of wedding parties w/ the guys in the same thing and i can't find them now. i'm trying to find a pic to show my dad b/c he just doesn't understand what it would look like. he's gonna wear plain brown dress shoes b/c he won't wear sneakers at a wedding

has anybody seen pics like this?

4/15/2009 9:40:46 AM

i immediately went to offbeatbride to look for a photo for you, and would like for you to now go look and check out today's entry it's right up your alley chick...

http://www.offbeatbride.com



i'm finding more black or colors than tan and off white :/ but here are 2 i did find that may help...



[Edited on April 15, 2009 at 10:00 AM. Reason : ]

4/15/2009 9:50:00 AM

thanks. i can never remember the name of that damn site

the pic could have been in a magazine. i thought it was the NC version of the knot, but i looked through it again and didn't see it. i have a couple other 32847234978 page wedding magazines i'll check through tonight.

[Edited on April 15, 2009 at 10:10 AM. Reason : ]

4/15/2009 10:08:54 AM

mom found these for the bridesmaids
http://www.lorisshoes.com/product.asp?pfid=LDS09306


we really like the natural look, and like i said before we're looking for a cork wedge type shoe. mom's not really wild about the platform-ness and i don't think shari is either (ash hasn't responded yet). they're kinda more expensive than i would like also.

i'd like to stick with the natural look but so far we haven't found anything else. ideas?

4/16/2009 9:36:36 AM

A quick search of zappos for "cork" and "beige" led to these. Some are cheaper, some are more expensive than the ones you just posted. There were a ton, the first two just seemed to look close to what you've already posted. The last two are very expensive. But I can't help liking the heel more than the wedge, and I think they're cute. Probably nothing close to what you would buy though!

http://www.zappos.com/product/7392897/color/3662

http://www.zappos.com/product/7394662/color/36690

http://www.zappos.com/product/7547871/color/82019

http://www.zappos.com/product/7522382/color/7693

I'm a little bored, so I'm going to add on some more that I found that are on the cheaper side:

http://www.kohls.com/kohlsStore/shoes/womens/contemporary/PRD~480006/apt+9+Camerann+Wedge+Sandals.jsp

http://www.kohls.com/kohlsStore/shoes/womens/wedgesespadrilles/PRD~436728/Mootsies+Tootsies+Lovestruck+Wedge+Shoes.jsp

http://www.kohls.com/kohlsStore/shoes/womens/wedgesespadrilles/PRD~433683/Croft++Barrow+Dowie+Wedge+Shoes.jsp


Also, Piperlime is great: http://piperlime.gap.com/browse/category.do?cid=40125&mlink=15956,1133997&clink=1133997

[Edited on April 16, 2009 at 9:57 AM. Reason : ]

4/16/2009 9:49:06 AM

yeah we've seen those. the 2nd one would be great if it didn't have that metal thing on it. there have been more, better options w/ heels, but we'll be outside on grass and we can't have people, esp pregnant people, aerating the yard and breaking ankles.

4/16/2009 9:52:28 AM

what about wedding shower host/hostess gifts? i have no clue what these are supposed to be...

4/16/2009 10:33:05 AM

i got my hostesses a hand made candle, cocktail napkins and wrote a nice note. i had a lot of women cohosting, so i couldn't spend a lot. total was a little less than $20 with the gift bag, tissue and raffi. if i just had one or two, i would've done more like a bottle of wine, lotions, etc or something more personal that i knew they would like.

we also had a co-ed shower, so i got the guys that cohosted a 750ml lager from total wine.

4/16/2009 10:41:33 AM

Just to let everyone know the North Carolina Museum of History is having a Bridal Expo tonight (April 16th) from 6-9pm. There are going to be a number of different vendors (caterers, photographers, cakes, etc). I believe the cost is only $5 and they are also raffling off $1500 to go towards your rental fee of the museum, which would pay for most, if not all of the rental fee!

4/16/2009 11:39:01 AM

Quote :

"Don't know how many guests you're having spöokyjon but have you looked at this place: http://www.allsaints1875.com/index.html I've heard it's reasonably priced and it says on their site they have tables and chairs available there."

Ha, I just checked back in on this thread for the first time since I last posted, but we have checked out All Saints and are going with them--we really love it, and it's a great space for the price and location.

Our decision making process has been made significantly easier by my girlfriend's mom calling up this week and telling us she's decided to give us $$$ to pay for the wedding. WHAT'S UP, FREE MONEY!

4/16/2009 3:35:08 PM

^ hah, I read your mind then

se7entythree, why not just let the bridemaids pick their own shoes? Just give them a guideline for what you basically want (beige and cork) and then let them choose their own based on their budget/personal style.

4/16/2009 8:45:45 PM

well there's only 3, one being my mom, and although they all said the price wasnt a problem, the pregnant one was a little concerned about stability. she says she's a little more stable in a wedge tho so i dunno. oh and the guys will all have the same shoes, so i think it's important that the girls do too. i'll be barefoot

im going to triangle town ctr on saturday and i'll look around there

[Edited on April 16, 2009 at 9:02 PM. Reason : ]

4/16/2009 9:01:50 PM

Your mom is a bridesmaid? Interesting.

4/16/2009 9:10:40 PM

matron of honor

it was discussed several pages back

she is the person in my life who best fit the role

4/16/2009 9:11:57 PM

Where have you guys found the best deal for personalized ribbon and napkins?

4/17/2009 11:34:21 AM

I'm going cake testing tomorrow. Should be a good time. basically just eating a bunch of different cakes with a bunch of different icings at a few different places.

Seems like the best deal on wedding cake is like $4.00 per person. Seems like a whole lot of money to me but whatever. I think I will try negotiating a little bit. what are your experiences with this?

4/17/2009 1:25:01 PM

Quote :

"Seems like the best deal on wedding cake is like $4.00 per person"

$4 was the highest price/slice that we saw when shopping around - how many slices/tiers are you planning on having

from what i remember the average for the summer of 2007 was 3-3.50 in raleigh

4/17/2009 1:27:54 PM

120-130 people.

We're searching in Charlotte since that's where the wedding is. Most places were like $4.25 per slice all the way up to $4.75.

4/17/2009 1:34:31 PM

http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com
Yes, the URL is schmalzy.

[Edited on April 17, 2009 at 2:35 PM. Reason : f]

4/17/2009 2:35:00 PM

^^Ours started at $4 a slice too, but we got a 10% off deal by paying in full, and they threw in free delivery. So, we actually came out less than $400 for a 100 person cake.

4/17/2009 8:08:42 PM

^^ omg that is so cool. i feel like i heard about that somewhere before, but totally forgot about it. i have a dress i could probably sell on there, but i'm hanging onto it because i don't like the style of it anymore but IF i ever get married, there's plenty of fabric that surely someone could do something with. or i just might wear my mom's dress. and i don't want to wear shoes so there's 2 things that save some $$$ haha.

P.S.i don't know if anyone else has noticed this or maybe i am just bigger than i thought (haha) but i feel like a lot of wedding dresses run really really small.

V i'm not crazy and i don't go around randomly trying on wedding dresses i did the whole deb thing (yea really sweet, right) and so my dress was a wedding dress. but i tried on a family friend's wedding dress and it was a size 2 and i'm pretty small but that shit was tiny. i guess she had gotten it altered. or i'm apparently not a size 2.

[Edited on April 18, 2009 at 2:19 PM. Reason : there are some neat dresses on that used site. ]

4/18/2009 2:14:21 PM

bridal sizes are based on the WWII measurements...so they don't run small, it's just the old way of doing things. i wear a size 8 by today's measurements, but my wedding dress is a size 12.

4/18/2009 3:22:20 PM

^Exactly. I'm a 00 in most stores, and weigh 102lbs, but my size 2 wedding dress fits like a glove.

The average dress size for Brides today is a 16.

[Edited on April 18, 2009 at 3:28 PM. Reason : ]

4/18/2009 3:25:34 PM

^, ^^ wow that is interesting. i didn't know that (obviously). but it makes sense. i just always wondered.

4/18/2009 4:05:01 PM

We're about to get our wedding license (w00t!!!) soon and I thought I'd just post the NC requirements in here for all yous

For the whole shebang see http://web.co.wake.nc.us/rdeeds/ROD/marriage/marriage.htm

The nuts and bolts of it...

You can start the process here: https://services.wakegov.com/webinquiry/marriageapplication.aspx
then finish the rest at the Reg of Deeds office

Quote :

"Proof of Age and Identity ***Note - both proof of a Social Security number and an ID must be presented at time of application*** • Applicants (bride and groom ) 15 years of age and above must provide their Social Security numbers and verification of the number. Applicants may present a Social Security card, W-2 form, or pay stub displaying full social security number as verification. If you do not have a Social Security number, click here or refer to the section under topic - If You Do Not Have a Social Security Number. • Applicants (both bride and groom) 21 years of age or above may use one (1) of the following forms of identification : - Driver's license (may not be expired), or - State-issued I.D. Card (may not be expired), or - Passport (may not be expired), or - Military I.D. (may not be expired), or - Certified copy of birth certificate "

Quote :

"Cost and Location to obtain marriage license • $50 CASH is required for a marriage license. Only cash is accepted. The license is good immediately upon issuance and is valid for 60 days. • Applicants (bride and groom) who wish to obtain their marriage licenses in Wake County may complete their application online or at the Wake County Register of Deeds office, One Bank of America Plaza, 421 Fayetteville Street, Suite 300, Raleigh, NC 27601. • Applicants (bride and groom) must show their identification and sign the marriage license at the Wake County Register of Deeds office. Marriage licenses are issued between 8:30 am and 4:30 pm, Monday through Friday, excluding County-observed holidays. Couples applying between 12:30 and 2:30 p.m. should expect up to an hour's wait. The Register of Deeds is located at One Bank of America Plaza, 421 Fayetteville Street, Suite 300, Raleigh, NC 27601. Call (919) 856-5460 if you need more information. "

[Edited on April 21, 2009 at 4:29 PM. Reason : application]

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4/21/2009 4:26:59 PM

sweet, thanks! I was actually going to look that exact information up in the near future.

4/21/2009 4:30:54 PM

Why is it only good for 60 days? Is it before it's signed (do you sign it at the wedding?) What is the point of a wedding license anyways? Proof? Help to get the woman's last name and all that crap changed?

That whole thing just confuses me... haha

4/21/2009 5:49:17 PM

it's valid from 60 days after you receive it - which means you have to get married within 60 days of receiving it and have it signed

it's what legally weds you - for taxes and the such - a marriage license makes it very easy for a women to have her name changed as well

4/21/2009 5:51:24 PM

Thanks for the info.

4/21/2009 6:10:33 PM

Quote :

"Where have you guys found the best deal for personalized ribbon and napkins?"

Sorry to ask again but I thought it might have gotten lost in the conversation....

4/29/2009 1:12:01 PM

i wish i had a tip for you for a good deal, but we didn't want those for our wedding so i don't know

i do remember seeing personalized napkins and ribbons in the back of some of the invitation books at Party City and Hallmark

4/29/2009 4:34:54 PM

They have personalized napkins and ribbon on theknot.com
I think the napkins are still on sale right now.
The personal pictures in the reviews make them look pretty good. I just haven't decided whether it's worth the extra dough yet.
I've been recommended Oriental Trading multiple times... although I'm hesitant to use them because I've always thought their stuff looked & felt VERY cheap.

4/29/2009 6:19:00 PM

I ordered personalized napkins from Just Write in Cary - I think they were reasonably priced (don't have exact total in front of me, sorry) and turned out really nice.

4/29/2009 8:23:53 PM

We're getting ours from the Knot. Less than $20 for 100 napkins is not bad.

4/29/2009 9:25:35 PM

wedding isn't until October but I am having trouble thinking of groomsmen gifts. My 4 groomsmen are the other 4 members of my band. We're all very close and been doing this band for coming up on 6 years now and so it seems appropriate to tie that in somehow but I haven't figured out how.

5/5/2009 11:22:52 AM

pm sent

5/5/2009 1:34:12 PM

You can double your pro wedding groomsmen shots as promo shots. Nice work.

5/5/2009 1:42:26 PM

from part of my PM with ideas...

record cufflinks http://tinyurl.com/cnv2nk


guitar pick cufflinks http://tinyurl.com/csltba


ok i think these are my fave http://tinyurl.com/d6owfl


[Edited on May 5, 2009 at 1:53 PM. Reason : ]

5/5/2009 1:48:06 PM

Quote :

"You can double your pro wedding groomsmen shots as promo shots. Nice work."

haha, yea I thought about that recently

^ and thanks. I didn't really think about checking etsy for stuff. (mainly because I've never used it before).

5/5/2009 2:13:50 PM

yeah...i've gotten a lot of little things off etsy for our wedding.

5/5/2009 2:18:05 PM

zomg awesome

5/5/2009 3:57:17 PM

^ those are awesome

I absolutely adore etsy

5/5/2009 5:08:16 PM

I wonder, since that lady does custom ones if you give her a design, if it would be stupid/too tacky for the guys to use our logo or something. Our main logo/most recent logo for the past few years has been a black, white, and purple and those happen to be the colors our tuxes are going to be (Prob black pants and jacket with some sort of dark purple vest and white shirts).

I mean, we would never wear any of our own merchandise or something so thats what makes it seem tacky. But for cuff links the colors match and theyre all members

5/5/2009 5:43:55 PM

I bet she would . Contact her and find out! Most Etsy sellers I've found are really awesome about custom orders

5/5/2009 7:48:43 PM